We all desire to feel emotionally secure in a relationship. Unfortunately, the topic of lying and infidelity comes up often in psychotherapy

When I started school, I learned that couple therapy is when two people who want to work on their relationship come to therapy and work things through. Now, years later, and with a lot more experience with couples, I know it is much more than that. One of the most difficult tasks I encounter as a therapist is to support couples going through an affair. Contrary to the idea that once this happens, there are no more chances for the couple to continue being together, I’ve experi

We all experience times of heated discussions when we are angry, irritated, or annoyed by our partners, co-workers, or friends. It is how we behave in response to these feelings that make the difference in the course of our relationships: it can make it better or worse. While irritation and annoyance are easier to manage, anger is an unproductive feeling. Although it is a useful signal, a “warning light” that causes us to act, as a solution, anger rarely helps, for it adds fu

Conflict is part of any couple. As Esther Perel said, couples go through a cycle of harmony, disharmony, and repair. A good fight is one that ends with a resolution and repair.A bad fight is a negative escalation based on attacking, blaming, and offending the other. While good fights lead to building a stronger foundation of a couple, a bad fight will weaken it to the point of breaking it up. Even a strong love cannot last in the face of criticism, blame, or contempt. To help